"Mark and Bev Tindall" <> wrote in message news:<>... from http://www.nimbus.org/Academics/ReligiousAddiction.html

Characteristics of a Religious "Addictive" System Thanks to Dr. Thomas Edgington for 90% of this. a.. God is seen as impersonal and vindictive: members tend to have a "grace- deficit" theology. a.. (Their religion and experience are based totally on fear, not on relief.) b.. Emphasis on theological "correctness" to the neglect of relationships and of loving others. c.. Demonstrates a "spiritual arrogance" [considers those from "outside" as less spiritual]. d.. You will hear comments like "I pride myself on my humility." e.. Majors on minor theological issues and ignores or minimizes major ones. f.. Scripture is said to be of primary importance, but in reality it is the leader's interpretation of Scripture that has primary importance. g.. Traditions often overrule Biblical truth. h.. Scripture is often misquoted, used out of context, or is degraded to the level of trite, pat answers in order to prove a point or to exact obedience to a system. i.. Vocational emphasis is placed on full-time Christian service such as pastor or missionary; so-called "secular" jobs are often looked down upon as inferior. j.. Intellectual development is limited to what fits the system; we think the way we do because we are right; the thoughts and opinions of others are not considered. k.. Dogmaitism is common: the point under discussion is often explained by the quotation of a Bible verse, again, usually out of context. l.. Members attempt to impose their personal opinions upon "outsiders" or upon those still within the system but under suspicion. m.. Members who fail to conform to all major and minor doctrines or opinions are "blacklisted", labelled as unsubmissive rebels, or treated with suspicion. n.. Harsh punishment can result and is often committed out of proportion to the seriousness of the "crime" committed. Expulsion from group occurs within this context. o.. There is a lack of objective accountability: leadership is accountable to itself ONLY. [Often explains why the "religious" fear and despise psychology... fear of exposure by outsider] p.. Leadership is viewed as infallible and beyond reproach. q.. Undue/over-emphasis upon submission to authority. r.. Conflicts are usually not allowed, since they threaten the peaceful "power" that ultimately controls the system. s.. Strong emphasis is placed on the development of volition -- "yield your will to God (and to me!)" to the neglect of the emotional life -- "we don't feel". [choices MUST = emotion...] t.. Expression of certain emotions, particularly anger, is seen as "unspiritual". u.. Low self image, hyperactive conscience, undue guilt, and an inability to forgive, either others or oneself is very common. v..

w.. Relationships are maintained superficially on an intellectual or a cognitive level. [Women are allowed to emote, but because of this, they are seen as sub-par, for their emotions are seen to block their logic...emotional men are also seen as sub-par, representing a threat.] x.. Communication often centers around theological issues; personal issues are rarely discussed. When they are, two phenomena find expression: a.. Shredding people, b.. setting up and knocking down straw men. y.. Interpersonal intimacy is often lacking. z.. Personal/emotional boundaries are often violated in the name of that which is "theologically sound". a.. [In this context, love is defined as "putting you in your place".] aa.. Poor ability to relate to hurting people; offers pat answers instead of demonstrating loving care