HOW MUCH DO YOU THINK YOU KNOW ABOUT YOUR PARTNER? HOW MANY PAID JOBS DID HE/SHE HAVE BEFORE YOU MET? WHERE WAS HE/SHE BORN? HOW MANY HOMES DID HE/SHE LIVE IN BEFORE YOU MET? WHAT IS HIS/HER FAVOURITE COLOUR? HOW ABOUT HIS/HER MOST EMBARRASSING MOMENT AS A KID/TEENAGER? WHAT WAS HIS/HER MOST SERIOUS ILLNESS/ACCIDENT AS A CHILD? WHO WAS HIS/HER FAVOURITE RELATIVE? WHAT’S HIS/HER ALL-TIME FAVOURITE MOVIE? HOW MANY CHILDREN DO YOU THINK HE/SHE WANTED BEFORE YOU MARRIED? WHAT WOULD HE/SHE THINK WAS THE BEST THING ABOUT THEIR FAMILY OF ORIGIN? WHAT WAS THE WORST? WHAT ATTRACTED HIM/HER TO YOU? WHAT OCCUPATION WOULD YOUR PARTNER HAVE CHOSEN OTHER THAN WHAT THEY’RE PRESENTLY DOING? WHY HAVEN’T THEY BEEN ABLE TO ACHIEVE THAT GOAL YET? WHO WAS THE PERSON HE/SHE PERCEIVED AS A POSITIVE ROLE MODEL WHILE GROWING UP? HOW WOULD HE/SHE DESCRIBE THEIR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES? WHAT CONCERNS/REGRETS DOES HE/SHE HAVE ABOUT PARENTING? DOES HE/SHE PREFER TO LIVE IN THE CITY OR COUNTRY? LONG HAIR, SHORT HAIR? WHO DOES HE/SHE THINK SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE HOUSEHOLD CHORES? THE GARDEN? THE BILLS? WHAT DID HE/SHE THINK ABOUT CHILD DISCIPLINE BEFORE YOU WERE MARRIED? NOW? WHAT DOES HE/SHE LIKE TO DO WHEN OUT WITH MATES/FRIENDS? DOES HE/SHE HAVE ANY FEARS OR PHOBIAS? WHAT WAS HIS/HER FAVOURITE HOLIDAY AS A CHILD? WHAT ARE HIS/HER FAVOURITE CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS: ARE THEY STILL IMPORTANT? WOULD HE/SHE LIKE TO TRAVEL – WHERE? WHAT MUSIC DID HE/SHE LISTEN TO GROWING UP? WHAT WAS THE BEST AND WORST OF HIS/HER SCHOOL EXPERIENCES? WHAT SPORTING TEAM DOES HE/SHE BARRACK FOR? WHO IS THE SAVER/SPENDER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? IF HE/SHE ‘COMES TO THE END OF A PERFECT DAY’ WHAT WOULD THEY BE THINKING MADE IT PERFECT? WHO WOULD BE MOST FEARFUL OF SUGGESTING MARRIAGE COUNSELLING? IF EITHER OF YOU WERE TO USE A WORD LIKE 'PSYCHOBABBLE' TO REFER TO WHAT COUNSELLORS MIGHT SAY, WHO WOULD IT BE? -- Shalom/Salaam/Pax! Rowland Croucher
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