Sam Keen (To a Dancing God) writes about his search for self-esteem. He got a PhD but being called 'Doctor' or 'Professor' didn't give it to him. He asked God 'What can I do that will give dignity/meaning to my life?' Answer: nothing; these are given and received out of God's grace. There in the night Sam Keen realized he'd been 'riding on an ox, looking for an ox'. (YOU CAN'T EARN WHAT YOU'VE INHERITED!!!!!).