Some Questions:

1.Write three words that would describe your father/mother growing up.

2.Write three words that your mum/dad would use to describe their marriage.

3.In 5, 10, 25 years time how would you like to be describing your marriage?

4.How would your dad describe your mum as wife and how would your mum describe your dad as husband?

5.What do you think you expect of yourself as husband/wife?

6.What do you think are some of the expectations that you may have of your partner as husband/wife?

7.Write three words that mum/dad would say about commitment.

8.What are some words to describe your expectations of your commitment to each other and your marriage.

9.How did you know that your parents cared deeply about each other?

10.How do you expect that your affection will be shown to each other?

11.When you think about communication in your family, how would you describe how it happened?

12.What are your expectations about how you will communicate in your new family?

13.When you think about differences that caused upset in your family, how would describe how they were dealt with?

14.How do you hope that differences will be dealt with in your marriage?

15.When you think about money in your family, what were some of the important issues and values that your parents wanted you to know?

16.Who took financial responsibility?

17.What are important money values, principles and issues that you bring to your marriage?

18.Describe “a good time” in your family growing up.

19.What are some of the values that your parents lived by and/or taught you?

20.What would you like to take from your FOO that would support your hopes and dreams for your marriage? What would you do differently?

From a marriage enrichment counsellor