Something that you can explain next time someone tells you to “Get over it” … Something you can give those who just don’t understand ……

When You Just Can’t “Get Over It”

PAIN. Without a doubt, pain acts as a common denominator between all of us. Whether physical, mental, emotional, spiritual or financial, we have all gone through agonizing moments. Pain reminds me of being in a room with dim lights. It takes a closer look to find some meaning in the world.

Although I have experienced pain in all of the above categories. I have always had the attitude, “I’ll get over it!” I would usually see a ray of hope in even some of the darker places. Naturally, I carried this mentality into my relationships. I believed people should have the “get over it” attitude too. Interestingly, I found something different.

Before I tell you my discovery, let me share with you some more of me. I used to wonder how a person could replay the same scenarios day after day for years on end. Although I’d listen to the stories with a willing heart, at times I wanted to scream my motto, “Get over it!” and then I wanted to exclaim, “And move forward!” I didn’t dare.

Then I had my awakening! I injured my feet on the job. Not the best place to hurt for a person who loves sports. After about my third surgery, it looked like I would not be able to just “get over it!” One morning when I took a shower, I couldn’t believe how much I ached just standing. I missed the joy of water washing over me. Even my Miss Piggy soap took a back seat to my pain. I couldn’t relish one of life’s simplest pleasures and I couldn’t believe it! I only focused on my feet. Nothing else in the world seemed to matter except for my discovery.

At that moment, I decided to acknowledge my pain and the fact that at least for now my world seemed dimly lit; a reminder of the people I have met. What would be the fate for my feet? I didn’t know. However, I told myself the next time I came across a person in pain I would see with different eyes. I would help turn up the lights in a darkened world.

by Eileen Hegel

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