Some friends have told me i need to get help. My husband left us two years ago and still beats me from time to time. I thought he might have stopped by now, but nothing i do pleases him. I do try hard but just cant manage it anymore.

I am born again and know that this is not God's fault; I don't blame Him for my own shortfalls. I was so surprised when i found a christian site on this stuff. Would rather get Godly answers and guidance.

I dont even quite know what it is that I am hoping to accomplish at your site, all i know is that i cant take it anymore!!! I have had mental illness for many years but managed to stay pretty brave; I feel weak and alone now; I know I need help, just dont know what sort.

Thank you for your patience

[Name withheld]

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In cases like this (with someone from a conservative evangelical or fundamentalist background) we talk about these issues:

1. You are invited to love your husband as a _person_ made in God's image

2. You are invited to respect his authority as God-appointed head-of-the home

3. You do do not have to live with abuse: you can be lovingly assertive in resisting it, and if necessary calling in legal and police help to enforce it.

4. Find a mature person who will be a caring/listening facilitator/counselor to encourage yo9u and help with reality-checking...

HTH

Rowland Croucher.